Speech is probably the most ancient human activity. Some people consider complex communication abilities as the main factor of emergence of the human race.
But then why - why do we get caught in the same trap of failed conversations, negotiation deadlocks, deadly boring meetings, postponed decisions generation after generation? We fail to reach agreement, contradictions are irresolvable, and if we pretend we can have a good talk it is not followed by a productive action.
Is there a way to make all talks consistent, practical, and pleasant? Without fight and scandal…
Yes. We do it using a universal approach, and teach others as well.
The Circle Method has been developed by a wide international team of researchers the methodologists of HD Trance have been lucky to be a part of.
At first, it was thought of as an ultra modern pedagogical approach of a constructivist type. That is why the method is so safe and applicable even to uncontrollable collectives with zero discipline.
In 2011, we realized that the method allows to accomplish much more than just conflict-free and engaging tuition.
This approach changes teams in an easy and ecologic way. One can use it for training and development, conflict management, interviews, strategy sessions, negotiations, planning meetings, sales workshops, brainstorms, and in general to upgrade any thinkable form of communication involving two or more people.
In the past years, we have used the Circle Method in plenty of areas, from universities to multi-level marketing, from prisons to social projects, etc.
The foundation of the method is the discussion rules (see below).
Besides the Rules, the method includes:
- question posing principles;
- discussion scenarios;
- games and exercises to improve team performance;
- summarizing principles;
- applied techniques for specific communication tasks;
- own evolution model for teams and more.
We train people how to use the Circle Method at our trainings. Here, we only provide the Rules as the most necessary and important portion of the approach.
1. EVERYONE IS EQUALLY IMPORTANT
No one is more or less important than the others in the circle. All the opinions are equally valuable.
2. ONE TOPIC AT A TIME
We discuss one suggested topic or question. We are attentive to the moderator’s questions.
3. EVERYONE MUST SPEAK
Even if one of us stays quiet, it is a loss. Silent people often come up with the most valuable ideas.
4. LISTEN AND HEAR OTHERS
Each one speaks in turn, we don’t interrupt. We listen to each speaker and absorb his / her experience.
5. NO ARGUMENTS, CRITICISM, EVALUATION
There are no wrong opinions. We neither criticise nor praise others and their words.
6. NO DUELS
The circle should never be torn by a dialogue between two of the participants. Even by a question to the moderator. Even if it is “to the point”.
7. RISE ABOVE DIFFERENCE
We overcome our disagreement, trying to see the question through everyone’s eyes. We search for the thing that unites us.
8. NO MOTTOS & CLICHES, ONLY OWN SINCERE THOUGHTS
We speak as we feel and the way we think, not referring to someone’ ideas. We also try to minimize the use of citations.
9. CONCLUDE TOGETHER
We try to take decisions unanimously, deriving them from the point of mutual understanding and unity.
10. VALUE THE WARM FIELD THAT INTEGRATES ALL OPPOSITES AND SHAPES THE NEW LEVEL OF BEING
There is something more precious than our brilliant decisions. It is the energy of our connection. Some say it’s this energy that produces the right decisions.
Each tries to speak no longer than for a minute at a time. This ensures drive and easy perception.